The Power of Self-Advocacy: How to Speak Up for Your Health in Surgical Menopause

The Power of Self-Advocacy: How to Speak Up for Your Health in Surgical Menopause

Surgical menopause is a profound and often overwhelming transition. For many women, it comes with a host of symptoms that can impact their daily lives—hot flashes, fatigue, brain fog, joint pain, anxiety, and more. But what happens when you bring these concerns to your doctor, and they dismiss them? What if you feel unheard, brushed aside, or told that “everything looks normal” even though you don’t feel normal?

If this sounds familiar, you are not alone—and more importantly, you are not powerless.

Why Self-Advocacy Matters

In the medical world, women’s pain and symptoms are often underestimated, misdiagnosed, or dismissed altogether. Studies have shown that women, particularly those experiencing hormonal shifts, are more likely to be told their symptoms are “just stress” or “part of aging.” But you know your body better than anyone else, and if something feels off, you have the right to be heard.

Advocating for yourself in medical settings can be challenging, especially when you’re already dealing with the emotional and physical toll of surgical menopause. But learning how to stand up for your needs, ask the right questions, and demand the care you deserve can make all the difference in your health and well-being.

How to Advocate for Yourself in Medical Appointments

1. Come Prepared

Before your appointment, write down:

• Your symptoms (when they started, how severe they are, and any patterns you’ve noticed).

• How your symptoms affect your daily life (e.g., “I struggle to get through work because of brain fog” or “I wake up multiple times a night drenched in sweat”).

• Any treatments or lifestyle changes you’ve tried and whether they have helped.

Having specific, clear examples helps paint a picture that’s harder to dismiss.

2. Ask Direct Questions

Sometimes, medical professionals need a nudge to take things seriously. Try asking:

• “What tests can we do to rule out underlying issues?”

• “Are there treatment options I haven’t considered?”

• “Can you refer me to a specialist who focuses on menopause care?”

• “What is the most up-to-date research on this symptom?”

These questions signal that you are informed, engaged, and expect a thorough discussion.

3. Bring a Support Person

If you feel nervous about speaking up, bring a trusted friend, partner, or family member who can advocate alongside you. Sometimes, having another voice in the room can help reinforce your concerns and prevent your symptoms from being dismissed.

4. Stand Your Ground

If your doctor brushes off your concerns or refuses to explore further treatment, don’t be afraid to say:

• “I understand this may not seem urgent to you, but it is severely impacting my quality of life, and I need help finding solutions.”

• “I’d like to discuss alternative approaches or additional testing.”

• “If you are unable to help me with this, can you refer me to someone who specializes in menopause care?”

5. Seek a Second (or Third) Opinion

If you don’t feel heard, you are not obligated to stay with the same doctor. Find a provider who respects your experience, listens to your concerns, and is proactive about finding solutions. Many gynecologists, endocrinologists, and functional medicine practitioners specialize in menopause care.

Your Health, Your Voice

Surgical menopause is a unique journey, and you deserve medical care that acknowledges and supports your experience. Advocating for yourself may feel uncomfortable at first, but it is one of the most empowering things you can do for your health.

If you’ve ever felt dismissed or unheard by a doctor, know this: your symptoms are real, your experience matters, and you have the right to seek the care you deserve.

💬 Have you ever had to advocate for yourself in a medical setting? Share your experience in the comments below! Let’s support each other in finding the care we need.

Medical Disclaimer: This article is for informational purposes only and is not a substitute for professional medical advice. Always consult with your healthcare provider before making any changes to your treatment plan.